與我共舞、享受單獨的喜悅(上)
Dance with Ourselves, and Enjoy Being Solitary(1)
與我共舞，就是在各方面和自己「玩」，享受屬於自己的時間，感受一種很特別的「單獨」的喜悅。
To dance with ourselves means to “play” with ourselves in every aspect. We should enjoy our own time, so as to feel the very special joy of being “solitary”.
如果長時間只有自己一人，通常會是什麼感覺？無聊、孤單、寂寞、害怕；還是，輕鬆、快樂、自在、滿足。有人喜歡長時期的自我獨處，可以自得其樂；有人經常需要陪伴，無法忍受孤單。
If we are alone over a long period of time, what feeling will we have? Bored, lonely, lonesome, or afraid, or easy, happy, carefree or satisfied? Some people prefer to be alone for a long period of time, because they feel content with their situations. Some people need companies, because they can’t bear to be alone.
人，很難甚至無法離開人群自己一個人生活，需要和人們交流來滿足各種需求，也難免衍生互動中的種種問題。
It is hard and even impossible for humans to be separate from crowds to live alone. Humans need to have exchanges with others to satisfy their needs. Consequently, various kinds of problems may unavoidably occur in such interactions.
我不能沒有朋友也不能離開人群，不過，至少可以用簡單的態度、觀念和行為，去面對外面的一切，先讓內心踏實，肯定自我存在的價值，明明白白讓自己知道：我不孤獨。因為，永遠有我及「自己」兩人相隨。我和「自己」，有非常深層的意境與心靈感受，也就是可以做到：在人群裡，享受單獨的喜悅。
I need friends, and I can’t be separate from crowds. However, at least I can face external worlds by means of my simple attitudes, concepts and behavior. I should feel dependable on my heart, for recognizing the value of my existence. I can explicitly let myself understand that I am not alone, because there are always two persons─ “me” and “myself”─ keeping company with me. “Myself” and I share a very profound state of mind and spiritual feeling. That is, I can enjoy being solitary among the throngs.
享受單獨的喜悅，不是孤僻、不是不與人互動，更不是宅不出戶，有了這個境界，內心是踏實、篤定、清淨、喜悅、滿足。喜歡單獨的感覺，可以先從小地方試著一點一滴慢慢培養，找到自己喜歡的獨處方式，感受其中的快樂，當喜歡那樣的感覺時，就會懂得享受單獨。
Enjoying being solitary is not equal to being alienated without interpersonal interactions. It does not mean staying at home everyday, either. Instead, when I reach such a state of mind, I will feel steady, affirmative, purified, joyful and satisfied. We can cultivate the feeling of enjoying being solitary little by little from a very tiny beginning. When we find out the way of being solitary we prefer, we can feel the happiness within. Then, we will get to know how to enjoy being solitary if we like such feeling.
獨處時，我會體會這樣的感覺：
When being alone, I would like to experience the following feeling:
●兮來攘往的人群中，例如車站、捷運、機場、百貨公司、街道、景點，有時候會放慢腳步，找個地方坐下來，看著人們的穿著打扮、臉部表情、走路動作、種種互動，感覺忙碌、緊張、輕鬆、快樂等等的行為，雖然只是坐著欣賞，也感受到了互動的感覺。
When I am among a throng of people in any station, MRT, airport, department store, street, scenic spot and so on, sometimes I may slow down my pace and find a place to sit down. Then, I will observe people’s dressing, facial expressions, walk movements, and various kinds of interactions, while experiencing their feeling such as busy, tense, relaxed, happy and more. Although I just sit there watching, I also have interactive feeling as well.
●家裡的陽台、路上、公園、郊區踏青、大自然(例如：海邊、山林、溪谷)，置身這些環境時會放慢腳步，體會一下當時的感覺和心情：
I will slow down my pace when I am on the balcony of my house, on roads or in a park, or when I go on a picnic or go to visit the Nature (ex. beach, forest, valley, etc.), and then I will experience my feeling and moods at that moment, for example:
▲陽台的花長出嫩芽了！今天的花，有些謝了、有些開了！
The flowers on my balcony shoot! Today, some flowers die,while some flowers blossom!
▲樹木枝葉因風而搖擺，每次的擺動都不一樣！
The branches of the tree swing as the wind blows. They swing differently every time!
▲一些不知名的小草小花，綻放著它們獨有的美麗！
Some unknown grasses and flowers blossom to show their unique beauty!
▲一片飄落中的樹葉，有著另一種美！
A falling tree leave is so beautiful when being observed in other ways!
………………………………………~~待續to be continued~~
~~Raymond Hsu~~
