哭、蛻變與成長(下)
Cry, Metamorphosis, and Growth(2)
每個人或多或少都有自己不自知的負面情緒，它隱藏在情緒倉庫裡，這些不自知的負面情緒在自然而然的哭泣過程中，會開始重新檢視自己，很自然的放聲大哭甚至嬰兒哭聲，哭過以後會漸漸變得自信、理性。
We have more or less unknown negative sentiments hidden in the warehouse of our sentiments. In the process of crying, we will begin to review ourselves naturally by venting such unknown sentiments─ Naturally, we will cry aloud, even similar to baby crying, and then we will become confident and reasonable after crying.
一位朋友因為家裡的寵物突然過世，居然持續的哭泣了7天之久，怎麼會因為寵物的過世而這麼的傷心難過？連他自己也覺得奇怪。
One of my friends had cried for seven days, because his pet passed away. How come was he so sad and sorrowful merely because of the death of his pet? He did not know the reason, either.
後來在閒聊的過程中，終於明白情緒崩潰的真正背後原因：對感情的執著無法放下；突然和寵物的分離牽引出小時候被家人暫時拋棄的無助和恐懼。表面上是寵物過世的哭泣傷心，實際上是幼年期親情分離的悲傷。那7天的情緒釋放，幫助他明白了原因，也漸漸釋懷。
Later, when I gossiped with him, I finally know the true reason hidden behind his emotional breakdown─ he sticks to his emotion too much, unable to let go. The sudden separation with his pet made him recall his helplessness and fear when he was abandoned by his family temporarily. In his appearance, he was sad for the death of his pet. In fact, he was sad due to his separation with his family in his early childhood. By relieving his sentiments for seven days, he was able to understand the cause and then became relieved gradually.
大人會因為面子問題而放不開，尤其一句：男人有淚不輕彈，不知限制了多少男人的情緒發洩機會，女性有比較柔軟的性情，容易用哭泣來宣洩情感。
Adults tend to refrain themselves because they may feel shameful. Especially, “a man should not cry easily” as the old saying goes, many men are refrained from venting their sentiments. On the contrary, women are more sentimental, and they tend to vent their feelings by crying.
誰沒情緒？只要在覺得安全自在的場所，例如：自己的房間或汽車裡，都是隱密又放心的地方，準備衛生紙和垃圾桶，盡情的把情緒垃圾倒出來吧！
We all have sentiments. We can prepare tissues and a garbage can, and then vent our emotional garbage wholeheartedly, as long as we are in a secret place we feel safe and unrestricted, ex. in our own rooms or within our cars.
如果朋友在哭泣，不用說話或勸告，只要靜靜陪著他，感受他的難過就好，只要沒有傷害自己或他人的動作，讓他一直宣洩悲傷都無所謂。任何人只要情緒釋放了，心情就好多了，也會有比較清楚的想法和自信。
If our frieno vent their sorrow continuously. Everyone will feel better and have clearer thoughts and confidence, after is/her emotion
結束End
~~Raymond Hsu~~
